It started out the way most misunderstandings begin. A simple statement taken out of context that escalates into a full-fledged argument.
My husband came home for lunch today, as he does every day, for his turkey over salad, crackers, fruit and protein bar. I was in the kitchen preparing his lunch, as I do most days and he says, “You look nice, are you going out somewhere?” Boom!!!!!
“No I’m not going out somewhere, why?”
“You just look really nice.”
I had curled my hair and put on a little makeup, mascara and lip gloss. And I did have on a pair of Khaki shorts and a pressed white button down shirt. But the comment said to me that I didn’t always look nice when he came home for lunch.
“I didn’t mean you don’t usually look nice,” he started in that, I know I’m not going to win this one fashion.
“After I got done scrubbing the toilets and baths this morning I decided to spend the afternoon writing. And sometimes, if I’m dressed nicer, I feel more professional.”
“So you admit, you are dressed nicer.”
“Nicer than what? Nicer than the man’s boxers and your old football jersey’s I wear in the morning when I’m cleaning? Or nicer than the baggy button ups and yoga pants I wear in the afternoon when I am cooking a three course dinner?”
“I get it. I’m sorry. You look great.”
“Would it have been soooo hard to say that to begin with?”
“No honey you’re right.”
At least that’s how it should have gone.
Instead it was- “I don’t know why you’re so defensive, I said you look nice.”
“Hey, where are you going?”
“Shopping. It seems I need some better looking clothes to wear when I’m cleaning the house. And since I’m dressed nice I can leave now.”
In the end there was no argument, no loud disagreement, but I do love my new shorts and tees.